I have a problem.im 16 and my friend is 18 and just had a baby on her own and left it?
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on a sidewalk corner.She didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant except me,and her b/f who doesnt care.She fist told me when she was 5 months.She always wore bagg and large clothes,and read and learned about having it on your own.And she delivered it on her own she said.Her parents don’t know about it.Well when she had her baby she put it in a basket and left it on a street corner and it was found.Its on our news and in the papers! She has tole me shes scared to admit to it.And the newspaper has said the police are searching for the mother to get help.I dont know how to help her! Should I still keep it a secret OR should I get the police and tell them it was her?
She never saw a doctor,she’s going to college and lives in a dorm and her parents live away from home.the baby was taken to the hospital by ambulance that night ten minutes after she left it there and it was clean healthy,and fine.she tole me she stayed until some lady and guy walking by found it.it was a great neighbrohood!
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on a sidewalk corner.She didn’t tell anyone she was pregnant except me,and her b/f who doesnt care.She fist told me when she was 5 months.She always wore bagg and large clothes,and read and learned about having it on your own.And she delivered it on her own she said.Her parents don’t know about it.Well when she had her baby she put it in a basket and left it on a street corner and it was found.Its on our news and in the papers! She has tole me shes scared to admit to it.And the newspaper has said the police are searching for the mother to get help.I dont know how to help her! Should I still keep it a secret OR should I get the police and tell them it was her?
She never saw a doctor,she’s going to college and lives in a dorm and her parents live away from home.the baby was taken to the hospital by ambulance that night ten minutes after she left it there and it was clean healthy,and fine.she tole me she stayed until some lady and guy walking by found it.it was a great neighbrohood!
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turn her in then she can extinguish all her parental rights. im sorry but your friend is a sick *itch. if she didnt want it she shouldve aborted it
so shes in college and irresponsible, I hope she goes to jail
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I think a true friend would help her friend get help, don’t you? She needs to get help physically, emotionally and spiritually. Please help her by calling the police. My prayers are with you =)
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tell the police. she is in a heep of trouble and you could be to for hding it.
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Absolutely tell the police. It was her mistake to leave a helpless baby on a street corner, she should have to own up to what she did, and face the consequences like an adult.
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what does your conscience say. I personally would tell her to go to the police or if she won’t I would tell the police myself.
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Your friend needs help. Keeping it a secret will not help her.
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I think that is awful and you should definately tell the police. You can do it anonymously and she’ll never know you did it.
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She doesn’t have to know it was you, turn her in! What kind of a person would do such a thing?
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Please tell the police. Your friend has made some very bad decisions, but her baby has not and deserves better.
Stop thinking about how your friend will react and think about that child.
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EITHER WAY THE POLICE ARE GOING TO FIND HER EVENTUALLY. YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER AND TELL HER THAT IT IS BETTER IF SHE TURNS HERSELF IN. DID THE BABY DIE? ALSO TELL HER THAT EVERYONE IS GOING TO FIND OUT AS WELL. IT WOULD BE EASIER FOR HER TO GO AND CONFESS, THEN THEM FINDING HER AND HAVING ALL THE CAMERAS IN HER FACE. THEY WILL UNDERSTAND THAT SHE WAS SCARED, BUT SHE NEEDS TO BE RESPONSIBLE AND HELP HER CHILD.
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Why didnt she drop it off at a hospital? you can you know! Oh well whats done is done.. i think you need to go to your parents and they will help you with what to do because you need to do something or you could get introuble to!
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thats a tough one. she could get in ALOT of trouble for that but i’d almost say you should tell on her because she needs to learn the consequences for things like that. good luck
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You should deffinatly tell the police, and ask them to keep you annonymous. I know she is your friend and you made a promise to her, but in a situation like this you should really be telling her that either she needs to turn herself in or you are going to do it. Give her the chance to do it herself. In this situation it is really important to do the right thing and your friend and the baby need help. Your friend did a very bad thing and she needs to own up to it.
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Honey this is a baby’s life that is being toyed with, I was reading this and it about made me cry. What your friend did was wrong, that baby could of died. I think you need to tell someone and disassociate your self from that person because that is a horrible thing she did and since she is 18 she will probably serve some jail time ecspeacialy if she is hiding from the law. Do you know what aiding and abedding is? its exactly what you are doing and you too can get in trouble, I think you should atleast tell her parents and let them handle the situation.
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Your friend needs mental help so I think you should call the police so she can get the help…
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go to this police if this is indeed real…
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Left her baby on the street. Damn, drop a dime on that **** right now. I would hope she can never have anymore kids if this is how she acts.
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If you are being honest you need to contact the police! To abandon a baby like that is totally wrong. There are people and places that could have helped her! DO THE RIGHT THING, even if it means jeopardizing your friendship. This is something that will weigh on your conscience if you don’t tell someone!
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Yes, I’d tell someone…maybe your parents at least. They have baby drop boxes at most large hospitals for this exact reason.
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i think being a good friend is hard but that poor baby doesn’t deserve to be like that just because the mother is to worried to tell her parentsI think you know the right thing to do its not about your friend anymore its about the baby
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I think she needs to contact the police and put it up for adoption. Then, maybe she could even still keep it quiet (though I doubt that).
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what a piece of garbage she could of at least dropped it off at a fire station. they have safe drops now where they wouldnt ask any questions.yes she was wrong and has no compassion for life. she needs to sew it up so she cant do it again. next time dont be such a ****. sorry but that really *****.
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Wow That is a lot to hold in for this long. I would seriously suggest you tell your friend to let the police know she is the mother to the child only for the child’s benefit (it could be sick, injured, etc). Your loyalty to her is very strong and important but this is an innocent life that’s in possible danger.
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i don’t think you should tell on your friend, but try to get her to turn herself in and get help. The baby may want to know its parents later on
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oh my god are you serious?
your friend is going to need a lot of help, this must have been an incredible ordeal for her and im not going to judge her as i have no right or no clue as to what the situation was.
you should tell her you are going to tell the police, with or without her. it would look better on her if she came forward herself.
she wont be prosecued, she’ll be helped.
if she turns on you for informing the police then print out these answers to show her that everyone believes this the right thing to do.
you, her and that poor baby have my prayers tonight.
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Are you crazy! Of course you should tell the police. The fact that you are confused about this just proves 16 year old kids are still way too imature to be driving cars!
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its not about her. Do whats right for the baby. She doesn’t matter anymore. She should have left the baby at the hospital….or been responsible and told her parents to set up an adoption.
Tell them..right now!
And learn form her mistakes…use protection..birth control.
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talk to your friend and go to the police together. she needs help, and hiding the truth is not the help she needs right now.
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you should definitely tell. This wouldn’t be considered tattle-tailing. Just call the police on a cell phone or pay phone and tell them… Say you wish to remain anonomous… That way you friend still trust you and the baby and your friend get the help they need… Or you could tell your parents either choice is a better one than not telling at all.
Be prepared though it’s considered illegal to abandon your baby and you friend may get into a little trouble, but this is a very serious matter and can’t be taken lightly.. Good luck…
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If I were you, I would talk to her about it and tell her that if she doesn’t turn herself in, she will feel horrible about it for the rest of her life. Tell her that you will go with her and help her, and will be behind her all the way. (If you are ready for that.) If she refuses, tell her that you want the baby to have a good home and that she should want that too, and if she doesn’t relinqish her parental right then the baby will just bounce from foster home to foster home instead of finding a good family to care for it. Tell her that if she doesn’t do this then the police will find out anyways, and she will be in much more trouble than if she turns herself in. Good luck, hun.
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keeping that secret may harm 4 persons you ,your friend,her boyfriend and the baby . i advise you to tell the police think of that child i don’t know how you and her kept it as a secret all that time why didn’t anyone of you thought of that miserable child who won’t find a mother nor a father how ?! have mercy on that child and go tell the police it will really help
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There’s a real difference between right and wrong. WHat your friend did was wrong. The baby could have died. GIve an anonymous tip if she refuses to go to the police. They’ll eventually catch her and in that way she can renounce the parental rights.
Let her use protection the next time. *** and kids are not a joking matter.
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If she’d left the baby with the fire department, she would not have been persecuted. Since she endangered the child by placing him or her on the street, she has committed a crime. If you talk to her, encourage her to contact the police, or at least a lawyer or a public defendant. She needs a lot of help.
Additionally, there may be complications from the delivery. She should seek medical attention.
Finally, tell her that she has 1 month to claim the baby as her own (the state may try to challenge that), but it is her right (birth parents giving the child up for adoption are told this). She can still take the baby back and make a family.
Go over to her house and contact a lawyer or police together.
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Hard situation for everyone involved — your friend, her baby, and you.
It is too bad your friend did not seek help to begin with, as some states have laws in place that allow a woman to abandon her child legally at certain locations (hospitals) or with certain guardians, without being accused of a crime.
New York, for example, has a five day period after a baby is born for it to be legally abandoned. This is to encourage young mothers to find good care for their child, rather than putting him/her into the trash (for example) and killing him/her.
Rhode Island has a 30 day period.
I don’t think a street corner was a valid location, however.
There’s the possibility that the law would be lenient, IF she goes in and confesses and throws herself on its mercy. If it’s obvious she is scared, didn’t know what to do, and is now trying to make sure the baby is cared for, they will do what they can to help her and not punish her. But the sooner she goes, the better.
Your first role, I think, is to encourage her to do what is best for her baby, appeal to how she cared for it for so long and brought it to term, and now she needs to make sure he/she is okay rather than quitting at the last minute. Appeal to her love for her own kid, just so she can make sure the baby is cared for and any medical issues are taken care of.
If she doesn’t confess… well, then it gets hard. An anonymous tip to the police? Going there in person? If the baby is in serious risk if your friend is not found, then I would advise that you go for the baby’s sake and deal with your friendship afterwards.
Your attitude will determine a great deal how your friendship will end up. If you do talk to the police, yet show concern for the baby and your friend, then she will forgive you eventually. In any case, encourage her to be the one to go forward.
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tell the police ,that is the right thing to do!!…
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Trying talking to your friend first and getting her to go the police. Assure her that you will go with her and comfort her if she is too afraid to go to her parents. It will make it easier for her then to be tracked down by the police. Her parents are going to find out at some point so she needs go ASAP to lesson the blow to her parents or punishment from the authorities. If she is a resident of NY or NJ they have law in that you can leave your baby at a police station, hospital or church without facing legal action against them. If your friend doesn’t go herself inform the police under an anonymous name. Good luck.
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Down here in our area we have a rule that if someone abandons a baby they can leave the infant at a police station, fire station, or hospital there will be no questions asked. When they abandon them anyplace else, the police will look for that individual to prosecute them.
Now that it’s too late to go back and do that, where should she go from here? If the police are really serious about finding her, they WILL find her. I can pretty much guarantee they will go easier on her if she turns herself in than they would if they have to go find her. She’s going to have to face the music sooner or later, whether it’s punishment from the law, or punishment from God.
The best idea for you would be to try to talk her into turning herself in. If she won’t, it’s not up to you to rat her out. However, it’s not fair for her to expect you to protect her either, and she should know that. That’s putting you on the spot. Tell her you won’t tell on her, but if the police knock on your door and ask that you’ll tell them anything you can.
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look I know that best-friend aren’t suppose to tell there secreat but because of this matter topic that your telling us, call the cops tell them your anonymous person calling to give information of the baby found, don;t tell your friend keep it a secreat no matter what, if i was her i will keep the baby and one thing i’m gonna say is i will never leave my freshen blood baby son/daughter in the street just because a men/women doesn’t want to take care of the baby fu ck him get use to it!!! that’s all im gonna said!
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Tell me her name and where you live and I will report her for you.
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I understand that she is your friend but something this serious should be reported to the police. You can remain anonymous but tip them off immediately. Have a blessed day.
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Around here you can drop a baby off at either a hospital, police station, or a fire station with no questions asked. But since she’s already left the baby, youneed to tell the police. They need to know about the baby’s family history and probably need to check her out to make sure she’s okay after giving birth also.
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FOR THE BABY, YOU NEED TO CALL THE POLICE!!! TELL THEM. I’m glad your friend at least had the baby, but they have that law now where she could have droped it off at a hospital, police station, or a fire station, NO QUESTIONS ASKED!!!
She could have at least done that without the worry of the baby’s safety and without being prosecuted. How did she drop it off with out no one seeing her do it????
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Everyone is right on this one – Tell someone, the police, your parents, her parents, school counselor, someone with authority. The baby is going to need all kinds of help. At least if it were dropped off at a hospital it would have been a safe haven. And at the hospital they could test for all kinds of family history like diabetes and stuff like that. And she just would have been asked health questions and if she really meant to leave the baby at the hospital verses a street corner.
This way the baby is taken care of and your friend can get the help she needs.
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Tell The Police For Everyone’s Sake. Also, I Would Think It Would Be Hard For You To Not Tell, You Would Probably Feel Guilty After Having Your Own Kids One Day (They Are So Amazing And Deserve The Best). You Would Probably Feel Better About The Situation And Can Just Call From A Pay Phone And Not Give Your Name. The Mom Needs Some Major Help And Will Continue To, Just Be There For Her (And If It Comes Out You Told She Will Probably Thank You One Day). Good Luck To All Involved Especially The Baby.
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first of all thats really freakin horrible…and second you should turn her in as soon as possible because this sh*t will eventually catch up with her and she will get very depressed and do god knows what. if she didnt go to the doctor, even if she would of went to the hospital they would have taken the baby away.
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Please tell her to turn herself in. As someone who after years of trying has yet to been able to have a child and is leaning toward adoption, this breaks my heart. There are so many people I know who want to be parents and can’t for whatever reason on their own so they adopt. If she had gone about this the right way she could have been supported and not been alone and her baby would have found a good home and parents who wanted her. If she has any heart at all, she will turn herself in and in the future practice safe *** or don’t have *** at all.
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You need to tell the police. what she did is a crime. You are aiding and abedding a criminal and you can also be arrested for not comming forward. Do the right thing.
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she needs to go and turn herself in. they may need medical history on that baby, need her to sign the baby over even possibly. Plus they are probably concerned about her own welfare and health.
If she didn’t want the baby she could have taken the baby to any hospital or police station and everything would have been fine.
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Turn her in. She needs to get cleaned out (her uterus) before she gets an infection and do more harm to herself than good. All she had to do was take that baby to the hospital and drop it off but in a street corner, that was stupid of her. Just turn her in or you will be living with this on your mind for the rest of your days.
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If you don’t go to the police you can get convicted of being a conspiracy which is an agreement between two or more persons to commit a crime if you withhold information. You don’t want trouble for yourself.